About this deal
I hope to God that I never have to use what if learnt in this book either for myself or someone close to me. So maybe I go at it from a selfish perspective now, and think ‘Why should I have to swallow my words and my opinions so you don’t feel awkward? Elle Wright had an admittedly easy pregnancy - her scans went well, she and her baby were healthy throughout, and in May 2016, she and her husband welcomed their son, Teddy, into the world. Elle is an inspirational woman and reading as someone who lost a child I could identify with everything she said. We were delighted to have the opportunity recently to interview the wonderful Elle Wright: Creator of Feathering The Empty Nest, and it’s accompanying Instagram account, who has now written a gorgeous book: Ask Me His Name.
As Elle gives her account of the months that followed Teddy’s death, it’s clear she’s decided to share every element of her grief and how she has learnt to cope with her loss. So giving women that confidence and pointing them in the right direction to talk to somebody who knows how they’re feeling, is incredibly important. Not a book I’d recommend reading shortly after your baby dies (oops, I have now learnt this lesson). I read as a friend and also a nurse to peer into this world to better understand a situation not my own, to be more insightful and equipped to care for a loved friend in this painful landscape.You have to integrate back into society, and you have to teach society why it’s really important that we can all just talk about this normally, so people don’t cross the street when they see you now because you’re not pregnant anymore and you’re not pushing a pram. Elle is the voice (or words in this case) for - I dare to say - all the bereaved parents who have to, daily, face a society that is not available to deal with the 'discomfort' of baby loss. She popped up in my suggested page on Instagram and I was instantly drawn in by her beautiful pictures of interiors and her gorgeous pug Borris.
Personally I have not lost a child however I’m studying nursing and I think it has given me a broader understanding of child loss so I can be a better nurse to new mums, families, and everyone.
Well written and evokes so many emotions that I have to admit, I cried a good few times whilst reading it.